It is said that people we love most have the capacity to hurt us most. I used to wonder why is this the case. And why is it that sometimes we can forgive strangers easily but not people we love? Why is it that a hurtful event which we can forget and let go off [...]

The long distance relationship strikes back! Fortunately this time, the ‘long distance’ part is only for three weeks. Then I too move back to US to join my hubby. But whether it is for three days or three weeks or three months, it always seems like an eternity.

I am fascinated by kind of relationship my elders have created. Fascinated and puzzled … over how is this possible. How can someone create this kind of lasting relationship which survives through generations – not just your lifetime but lifetimes of generations after you.

Falling in love just once is not enough.

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, with the same person – said Mignon McLaughlin.

As routine sets in and you get lost doing mundane activities day in – day out, it might seem that the spark that brought you together is slowly dimming out. However, most of times, it is not that you have fallen out of love or that the love that brought you together is no more.

Love expresses itself in a variety of forms. And it keeps changing it’s form of expression over and over through out our lives.

We often get so much used to one form of love, one expression of love that we turn blind eye towards all other forms and expressions even if they are right in front of our eyes. We are so set about the way love should be expressed, that we don’t even try to validate other expressions of love.

How can it be that two people who speak the same language, interpret it differently?

When sentences like ‘You don’t understand me‘, ‘This is not what I meant‘ start getting regularly used, relationships begin to get difficult, increasingly frustrating actually. It is difficult to digest that what seems like a crystal clear, obvious message to you, could mean something else to your partner.

One way to ensure that your partner gets exactly what you are saying is by creating a common vocabulary. Have a key set of words, phrases and sentences which mean the same thing to both of you (please don’t assume they mean same, talk it out). You can create a common vocabulary by :