Comments on: Speak The Same Language – Create A Common Vocabulary

By: Jannie

Jannie — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 18:19:24 +0000

And oft times women just want to be heard and validated, whereas men are all about "fixing" things -- nderstanding that can go a long way to filling in the communication gap if we understand that about each other. Jannie´s last blog post..And “The Real Jannie” is…?

By: banji

banji — Sun, 16 Nov 2008 11:51:57 +0000

Once a friend give me this advice when it comes to understanding each other.

You and your spouse are at the beach standing. Both of you are opposite to each other. You then pick up a stick and write the number 6 on the sand. Your spouse will always see the number as 9 instead of 6. Nothing will change this unless your spouse see the number from your point of view.

I’m not sure I’m telling the story right. But it surprisingly true.

Nice tips Avani. Keep it up

By: Avani-Mehta

Avani-Mehta — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 01:26:44 +0000

@Cath: I definitely like “I want you to do this now” more. “Could you do this” leaves a choice open on whether you want to do this or not.

@Click A Life Coach: Sounds interesting. Heading off to your site to try the quiz.

By: Click A Life Coach

Click A Life Coach — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 01:14:23 +0000

Hi Avani;
This is a common challenge for many couples that they don’t know how to communicate with each other. Very often it is not only the vocabulary that is different, they are actually using a completely different love language. Gary Chapman wrote a great book “The Five Love Languages” about it.

On our website (see link above) you find a free quiz, that is based on his book and determines the love language someone is speaking.

By: Cath Lawson

Cath Lawson — Fri, 14 Nov 2008 18:03:02 +0000

Hi Avani – this is good advice. Communication problems in relationships are a nightmare. Men seem to interpret things differently to women.

I have found it’s best not to ask, “could you do this?” as often, they don’t seem to realise you mean now, or it’s important. Instead, you sometimes have to say, “I want you to do this now.” Not so polite but it works.