Comments on: Saying No – And Feeling Good About It

By: Carl Rsx

Carl Rsx — Wed, 14 Sep 2011 23:08:04 +0000

Its an important skill to learn. Were only human and should really focus on the high value tasks. Other people will take us all over town if we let them.
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By: Ally

Ally — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 03:52:04 +0000

“After all, how can we bring more integrity into the world if we’re not true to ourselves?”

Well put! Adds an almost altruistic motivation to a (just as crucial) integrity-driven, priority-preserving intention.

By: ashish

ashish — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 12:14:14 +0000

I’m a YES MAN!!!

Thanks for teaching me say ‘NO’…

Great post.

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By: BraveStrongMe

BraveStrongMe — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 11:34:37 +0000

Yes We can. Just today, I refused to go with Dad because He blamed Me for something which I had nothing to do about. I felt angry. So I decided saying no riding the car with Him. And I feel great. I feel brave. And I was safe. I think that if We learn to say no, We’ll like Ourselves better. And when We do, We’ll start doing more things which are important for Us. We’ll also get Our basic rights. I believe We have to do this. It is truly empowering. I hope this inspires You to say No. Practice. Soon, We’ll be good and We’ll feel great. I’ll pray for You, for this goal. Pray for Me too. GodblesS You All! The Lord says, “Be Brave and Strong.” So no more worries, fears, or excuses. Let’s Go!!! We’re safe.

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By: Dave

Dave — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 15:15:16 +0000

Really nice writeup and tips. Re: saying no, there's also the common option of 'not my responsibility'. If you're asked to do something, sure there are times when it may not be your responsibility, but you do it anyway. The flip side of this is when you're asked to do something, and simply don't have the time. 'Not my responsibility' can be a lifesaver in this scenario. Dave´s last blog post..Korean Government serious about Games -$200m serious

By: sightbeyondsight

sightbeyondsight — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 05:07:13 +0000

The author is right. Saying NO is your human right! People usually manipulate people who tend to always say yes to their demands.You are under no such obligation to take on the the problems of manipulative vampires.It’s better to recognize TOXIC individuals and to let them no in no uncertain terms that you mean NO! N.O. two letters.Comprende?
Friendship should be a ship of mutual respect. A person doesn’t respect another person (that always says yes to their demands).For the love of God and all that there is in heaven …Learn to say NO!. Mean it. Don’t stress yourself about it.You can be firm without bending.and if the toxic person should continue to behave like a rude child . Leave the situation and the toxic person alone to wallow in their selfish , childish behavior.Respect yourself. Demand respect.Expect positive behavior.And correct negative behavior and or distance yourself.

By: Chris Edgar

Chris Edgar — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 16:55:16 +0000

Thanks for this post. I’ll add that one practice I’ve found useful in saying “no” is removing the labels from the sensations I feel when I’m refusing somebody’s request. In other words, many of us think of the feelings that come up in our bodies when we say “no” — maybe a tension in our shoulders, for instance — as bad or wrong. But when we recognize those feelings for what they are — “nothing more than feelings” — we become more comfortable with refusal. — Best, Chris

By: Avani-Mehta

Avani-Mehta — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 20:33:14 +0000

@Cath: Experience is the best teacher, isn’t it?

@Sara: That connection also helps us understand that saying no is right. We are not doing anything wrong by saying no. Only maintaining our integrity.