Comments on: Honor Your Anger Style

By: Avani-Mehta

Avani-Mehta — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 04:28:53 +0000

@M: You are welcome. Yes, assertive and reflective is the goal.

@Cath: My thoughts exactly. Normal anger too needs to be handled well. Why wait till it becomes extreme.

@Jennifer: It always makes sense to deal with the source rather with the symptoms, doesn’t it?

@Vered: You are welcome Vered. Yes, it’s interesting.

@Marelisa: I agree – release anger and deal with the cause.

By: Marelisa

Marelisa — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 00:30:07 +0000

Anger is such an important topic Avani, both for people who are consumed with anger and end up lashing out at others, as for those who swallow their anger and end up adopting harmful behaviors such as food, shopping, gambling, and other addictions. I believe that the best way to handle anger is to identify why you’re angry, find a way to release the uncomfortable tension caused by anger (Sedona Method, EFT, massage, go for a walk, and so on), and then take calm and assertive action to address the issue that caused the anger in the first place.

By: Vered - MomGrind

Vered - MomGrind — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 21:26:51 +0000

Thank you for the review. Sounds like an interesting read.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 20:38:02 +0000

Understanding anger is so crucial. Without the understanding of where it originate we will only be treating a symptom that is acted out in some other way. It appears that this book has a grasp on that.

I like how you brought out that it teaches you how to use anger as a source for positive change.

By: Cath Lawson

Cath Lawson — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 21:41:29 +0000

Hi Avani – This sounds like a really helpful book. As you say, most anger management books are aimed at folk in abusive relationships etc. But at least this author recognises that “normal” people get angry too.

By: M

Wed, 01 Oct 2008 20:42:27 +0000

Thank you for the “snapshots” it helps to get a good picture of the book. Very good! “assertive and reflective” is the goal.

By: Avani-Mehta

Avani-Mehta — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 17:02:33 +0000

@Maya: Overall, this is how the book with help you with relationships : it will help you identify what anger type is the other person coming from and there are some specific pointers given while dealing with people from each anger type.

However, when in conflict, a lot of other things also come into picture which the book doesn’t cover – like dealing with difficult people, own self esteem etc.

@Effortless Abundance: I love concepts which can be applied everywhere. Once we put in effort to understand the concept, then we can tweak it to apply everywhere. Makes more sense than learning strategies for each and everything separately. I love the concept of ‘what you resist, persists’. Came across it in a Landmark Education programme I had attended.

By: Effortless Abundance

Effortless Abundance — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 10:55:49 +0000

This reminds me of the idea that ‘what your resist, persists.’ Felix Denis, in his wonderful book ‘How to be Rich’ speaks about overcoming fear by facing it and then befriending it – a similar idea. It also reminds me of Anthony de Mello’s writing about embracing your demons. I think this idea can be applied to just about anything.

By: Maya

Maya — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 06:19:28 +0000

Over the years, my biggest accomplishment has been “decoding” the anger. I was like Davina, always in denial, since I inherently believed that I had no right to get angry. Now, I am struggling with how to deal with “anger in relationships” …I seem to do okay with managing anger within myself, but when it involves other people who are not willing to listen, my strategy just fails….and fails miserably…and affects relationships. Perhaps part 3 of this book will help with that? What do you think?

You have gotten me working pretty hard with respect to my anger the past couple of weeks

By: Avani-Mehta

Avani-Mehta — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 04:31:53 +0000

@Davina: Wow, I didn’t expect you to read through the entire series so fast. Am glad my writing could provide some value to you. It’s great you have picked up an area to focus on. What’s your next step going to be?