Comments on: How To Pick Your First Anger Management Area http://www.avani-mehta.com/2008/09/23/how-to-pick-your-first-anger-management-area-anger-management-series-part-iv/ Food For Mind Tue, 16 Mar 2010 11:46:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Liara Covert http://www.avani-mehta.com/2008/09/23/how-to-pick-your-first-anger-management-area-anger-management-series-part-iv/#comment-953 Liara Covert Sat, 11 Oct 2008 11:58:39 +0000 http://www.avani-mehta.com/?p=92#comment-953 Laughter is very good medicine! Some people sense the connections between anger and attack are straightforward. Yet, the links between anger and fear are not always so clear-cut. If you feel worthy of attack rather than worthy of unconditional love, then it would be to your benefit to work though and dissolve such a conclusion. Laughter is very good medicine! Some people sense the connections between anger and attack are straightforward. Yet, the links between anger and fear are not always so clear-cut. If you feel worthy of attack rather than worthy of unconditional love, then it would be to your benefit to work though and dissolve such a conclusion.

]]> By: Avani-Mehta http://www.avani-mehta.com/2008/09/23/how-to-pick-your-first-anger-management-area-anger-management-series-part-iv/#comment-813 Avani-Mehta Wed, 01 Oct 2008 17:07:01 +0000 http://www.avani-mehta.com/?p=92#comment-813 @Urban Panther: Wow, you handled the situation beautifully. I can't think of anything to add or edit from it. It's sad, sometimes we have the wisdom to see the other person in anger but not enough to handle that knowledge effectively. I see you could do both :) @Shannon: It's true. When we truly understand others, we know where they are coming from and thus, not get angry with them. @The Daily Minder: The pleasure is all mine. I really do wish that it makes a difference in lives of lot of people. That IS the intention with which I wrote the article. @Urban Panther: Wow, you handled the situation beautifully. I can’t think of anything to add or edit from it. It’s sad, sometimes we have the wisdom to see the other person in anger but not enough to handle that knowledge effectively. I see you could do both :)

@Shannon: It’s true. When we truly understand others, we know where they are coming from and thus, not get angry with them.

@The Daily Minder: The pleasure is all mine. I really do wish that it makes a difference in lives of lot of people. That IS the intention with which I wrote the article.

]]> By: The Daily Minder http://www.avani-mehta.com/2008/09/23/how-to-pick-your-first-anger-management-area-anger-management-series-part-iv/#comment-797 The Daily Minder Wed, 01 Oct 2008 08:08:28 +0000 http://www.avani-mehta.com/?p=92#comment-797 Wonderful! Simply wonderful. Thank you for taking the time to write an article that could potentially help a lot of people. The Daily Minder Wonderful! Simply wonderful.

Thank you for taking the time to write an article that could potentially help a lot of people.

The Daily Minder

]]> By: Shannon Munford http://www.avani-mehta.com/2008/09/23/how-to-pick-your-first-anger-management-area-anger-management-series-part-iv/#comment-784 Shannon Munford Tue, 30 Sep 2008 16:43:29 +0000 http://www.avani-mehta.com/?p=92#comment-784 @ Urban Panther....What you are describing is empathy. I believe empahty is a vital tool in managing anger. We often trample over other with our words and actions because we are oblivious to how we make other people feel. Shannon Munford www.daybreakservices.com www.daybreakservices.com/blog @ Urban Panther….What you are describing is empathy. I believe empahty is a vital tool in managing anger. We often trample over other with our words and actions because we are oblivious to how we make other people feel.

Shannon Munford
http://www.daybreakservices.com
http://www.daybreakservices.com/blog

]]> By: Urban Panther http://www.avani-mehta.com/2008/09/23/how-to-pick-your-first-anger-management-area-anger-management-series-part-iv/#comment-783 Urban Panther Tue, 30 Sep 2008 12:28:16 +0000 http://www.avani-mehta.com/?p=92#comment-783 Maybe I'm jumping ahead to an advanced technique here, but I try and pay attention to where the 'offending' party is at. For example, the other day we got caught in Toronto traffic because streets were shut down for a marathon. The Lion and I were afraid we'd miss our flight. The Lion got flustered over not being able to find his wallet and said something really snarky to me. My immediate reaction was to snap back, but I took a deep breath, smiled and said nicely "That was really silly, but you are stressed." For me, I needed to let him know nicely that his statement hurt me, but for him, I needed to let him know I knew he was stressed and frustrated. Situation diffused and he gave me a big hug. Good series, Avani. Maybe I’m jumping ahead to an advanced technique here, but I try and pay attention to where the ‘offending’ party is at. For example, the other day we got caught in Toronto traffic because streets were shut down for a marathon. The Lion and I were afraid we’d miss our flight. The Lion got flustered over not being able to find his wallet and said something really snarky to me. My immediate reaction was to snap back, but I took a deep breath, smiled and said nicely “That was really silly, but you are stressed.” For me, I needed to let him know nicely that his statement hurt me, but for him, I needed to let him know I knew he was stressed and frustrated. Situation diffused and he gave me a big hug.

Good series, Avani.

]]> By: Avani-Mehta http://www.avani-mehta.com/2008/09/23/how-to-pick-your-first-anger-management-area-anger-management-series-part-iv/#comment-768 Avani-Mehta Sat, 27 Sep 2008 04:22:32 +0000 http://www.avani-mehta.com/?p=92#comment-768 @Stacey: That's a great goal. I strive to become anger-free (well ... atleast as much as possible :)) @Kim: Kick boxing sounds like fun. And yes, any physical activity would help reduce anger and frustration. In fact, exercise can make you happy. @Stacey: That’s a great goal. I strive to become anger-free (well … atleast as much as possible :) )

@Kim: Kick boxing sounds like fun. And yes, any physical activity would help reduce anger and frustration. In fact, exercise can make you happy.

]]> By: Kim Woodbridge http://www.avani-mehta.com/2008/09/23/how-to-pick-your-first-anger-management-area-anger-management-series-part-iv/#comment-765 Kim Woodbridge Sat, 27 Sep 2008 00:43:49 +0000 http://www.avani-mehta.com/?p=92#comment-765 Avani, I don't get angry too much although I did when I was younger. But when I do, I am definitely the confrontational type. I actually get more annoyed when arguing with someone who responds by running away from the situation. I don't currently but I used to take kick-boxing classes for exercise and found that it really helped to reduce my anger and frustrations. I think any intense physical activity would have that affect. I know need to go back and read the rest of the series :-) And I second Barbara's ebook idea. Avani,

I don’t get angry too much although I did when I was younger. But when I do, I am definitely the confrontational type. I actually get more annoyed when arguing with someone who responds by running away from the situation.

I don’t currently but I used to take kick-boxing classes for exercise and found that it really helped to reduce my anger and frustrations. I think any intense physical activity would have that affect.

I know need to go back and read the rest of the series :-) And I second Barbara’s ebook idea.

]]> By: Link Love Friday | Mark Salinas, MN | Healthy Living Today [Nutrition, Fitness, Weight Loss] http://www.avani-mehta.com/2008/09/23/how-to-pick-your-first-anger-management-area-anger-management-series-part-iv/#comment-760 Link Love Friday | Mark Salinas, MN | Healthy Living Today [Nutrition, Fitness, Weight Loss] Fri, 26 Sep 2008 13:13:17 +0000 http://www.avani-mehta.com/?p=92#comment-760 [...] Mehta has a fascinating group of articles in Anger Management Series that provide self help material to deal with anger. It raises and answers questions like - how to [...] [...] Mehta has a fascinating group of articles in Anger Management Series that provide self help material to deal with anger. It raises and answers questions like – how to [...]

]]> By: Stacey / Create a Balance http://www.avani-mehta.com/2008/09/23/how-to-pick-your-first-anger-management-area-anger-management-series-part-iv/#comment-759 Stacey / Create a Balance Fri, 26 Sep 2008 11:31:36 +0000 http://www.avani-mehta.com/?p=92#comment-759 I am going to go back and read the others posts! I'm a fight or flight girl and really want to get out of that pattern. My goal is to simply become aware of my anger and not to react to it. This, however, is easier said than done. Stacey / Create a Balance's last blog post..<a href="http://createabalance.com/practicing-being-selfish-self-nurturing/" rel="nofollow">Practicing Being Selfish = Self Nurturing</a> I am going to go back and read the others posts! I’m a fight or flight girl and really want to get out of that pattern. My goal is to simply become aware of my anger and not to react to it. This, however, is easier said than done.

Stacey / Create a Balance’s last blog post..Practicing Being Selfish = Self Nurturing

]]> By: Avani-Mehta http://www.avani-mehta.com/2008/09/23/how-to-pick-your-first-anger-management-area-anger-management-series-part-iv/#comment-755 Avani-Mehta Thu, 25 Sep 2008 23:42:29 +0000 http://www.avani-mehta.com/?p=92#comment-755 @Ananya: Loved the quote :) Made me smile but it's so true. @Nathalie: I have started thinking on lines of pareto principle almost everywhere. Sometimes it gives amazing results. For others, I am still waiting for a breakthrough. @Ananya: Loved the quote :) Made me smile but it’s so true.

@Nathalie: I have started thinking on lines of pareto principle almost everywhere. Sometimes it gives amazing results. For others, I am still waiting for a breakthrough.

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