Comments on: Cheat Codes To Have A Happy Marriage

By: Ashish

Ashish — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 07:48:15 +0000

A very insightful Avani. Relationships can be such a challenge when we lack the attitude of being forgiving and giving. I am lucky to have a partner who seems to be living the truths you mentioned in your article.

By: Lance

Lance — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 15:35:44 +0000

Excellent points. I really liked the point you made about telling your spouse about your birthday, or your anniversary, a week in advance instead of hoping that he/she remembers it. This is such a simple way to avoid the disappointment of being let down (can’t help it if your partner is bad with dates). About the point that you made about “ask and it’s given”, I guess this works well for women but I’ve noticed that this does not work out so well for men, for some reason. As a man when you ask a woman for things that you want, she is more likely to feel that you are “needy”, is that not the case?

By: Debbie

Debbie — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 23:31:23 +0000

Hi Avani,

This is a great article. So much truth in it. I agree keeping a score card is not good.

the only thing that will come out of that is a divorce sooner or later.

Thanks
Debbie
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By: Avani-Mehta

Avani-Mehta — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 20:35:24 +0000

@Contrariwise: I am sorry about your marriage. Relationship requires effort from both sides. These ideas will work only if both desire to make them work.

By: contrariwise

contrariwise — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 03:34:25 +0000

Nice ideas. They don't always work, especially when your spouse has no intention of reciprocating or changing. I'm counting the days when my kids go to college and I can divorce my husband. contrariwise´s last blog post..Tutorial: How to oxidize sterling silver using eggs

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Words Unspoken » Weekend Wrap-Up — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 13:05:29 +0000

[...] Cheat Codes to Have a Happy Marriage – This takes a slightly different perspective on the idea of marriage, with talk of “score cards” and how to raise yours. It’s probably sparked some controversy with people who take their marriages almost too seriously, but it is in good fun and if you look past the “score” thing, it’s got some great advice and tips that apply even when you’re not out to increase your partner’s “score”. A good read! [...]

By: Rajneesh

Rajneesh — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 02:04:26 +0000

Intentionally people do dominate each other. Intentionally, living together with anybody is a kind of competition unless one is not an enlightened human being to understand others individuality and freedom.

“The secret of good relationship is mystery. may be we keep pushing the discussions|arguments with tons of justifications, refrences, tips and all stuff but deep somehwere we know what is the meaning of this life, and relationships? – Nothing. We keep befooling ourselves. All our gestures of display outside are indications of internal incompleteness and life goes that way !

By: Avani-Mehta

Avani-Mehta — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 19:08:03 +0000

When people stay together, clashes are bound to happen. That doesn’t mean they intentionally do that.

By: Rajneesh

Rajneesh — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 12:32:28 +0000

Avani,

Of course people do fight to evade boredom or dullness, but sub consciously.

did you ever hear that the great lovers of the world: Laila and Majnu, Romeo and Juliet, Shiri and Farhad, Soni and Mahival etc. ever fought or got dis satisfied with their relationships? No? Just because they couldn’t ever get that much of proximity to spend time with each other so that could be bored. had they been nagging and fighting then who would have heard their tales of great lovers??

The real test of relationship begins only when couples live together and bear each others attitudes and shortcomings. Not like that of Indian movies that potray relatioships like ultimate fantsasy where life seems a bed of roses and couples are seen dancing and enjoying even with most terrible situations. never ever an Indian movie really begins with a marriage, all producers and directors know how to cash on fantasies and pack up before hero heroine gets married.